Since this isn't an
online magazine about making your own
chocolate truffles, you can already guess
my suggestion: why not try knitting? As
knitters of every gender and persuasion
know, it's creative, meditative, relatively
inexpensive, portable, practical, easy
to learn and difficult to master. You
can happily make the same three items
over and over your whole life long, or
you can develop new skills and meet new
challenges in your quest to become a knitting
sensei. Plus, you can sit on the couch
and do it while listening to music, avoiding
household chores or watching the game
(though, truthfully, it's probably better
suited to football and baseball than hockey
or basketball).
And I can tell you from
my own experience -- a halfway decent
looking man knitting alone in a public
place for any length of time will attract
any number of curious women who all want
to know: What are you making? How far
along are you? Where did you get your
pattern? What kind of yarn are you using?
Who taught you know to knit? (and, with
surprising frequency) Can you teach me?
When it comes to attracting
female attention, knitting far surpasses
both the adorable baby and the cute fluffy
puppy: no poo, no feeding, no high-pitched
whining, no awkward or complicated questions
about what kind of breed or where is his
mommy. And while it's always impressive
to be juggling bobbins of colour on a
merino fair isle sweater, you can even
get a few ooohs and aaahs from a well-crafted
hemp facecloth.
At first I used to think
that this was the gender-reversed equivalent
of those men who see a woman changing
a flat and goo-goo, "Isn't that cute?"
But I quickly came to realize that the
vast majority of the women who stop by
to watch or comment are genuinely curious,
supportive and respectful. Let me tell
you, if I were straight, my dating possibilities
would be going through the roof.
While there is a great
deal of historical uncertainty about when
and where knitting was invented, and by
whom, there is a general consensus that
many -- if not all -- of the early knitters
were male. Countries and cultures around
the world have varying traditions around
knitting and textile arts -- in South
and Central America, in Asia and the Middle
East. In Western Europe, however, where
modern knitting as we know it first took
hold, it emerged as a fine needlecraft
exclusively practiced by men.
At that time, in and
around the 12th century, knitting
needles were expensive and difficult to
manufacture. Hand-knitted items, garments
and fabrics were luxurious alternatives
to woven cloth, and knitters were regarded
as masters of textile arts. With the arrival
of the Renaissance came advances in metalworking
-- which led to the first mass-production
of knitting needles, and then the formation
of all-male knitting guilds. Soon after,
however, came the invention of knitting
machines, which led to knitting mills
and the decline of the guild hand-knitter.
Supplanted by other forms of fine needlework
that could not yet be reproduced by machine,
fine hand-knitting was rendered obsolete.
By the Victorian era, hand-knitting found
its way into the home as one of the domestic
arts, practiced primarily by the poor,
the rural, and the female.
Skip ahead to the 21st
century, and knitting has transformed
into a largely recreational activity,
rediscovered by a new generation. And
while men have continued to knit in greater
and smaller numbers over the last hundred
years (particularly in wartime, making
their own socks, mittens, hats and scarves),
this new wave of knitting has brought
guys back to the craft in droves.
I myself was first taught
by my mother more than thirty years ago,
and then learned it all over again in
the last year of high school from a group
of female friends who used to sit and
knit in the cafeteria. A few years later,
this time with the support of some stitching'n'bitching
co-workers, I knit my first sweater (black
mohair, red and yellow stripes, don't
ask) over a long series of lunch hours
at my very first job in Toronto. Then
we all found ourselves trapped in the
thick of the '80s and '90s -- a time of
ugly patterns, ugly yarns and ugly colours.
Those few people who kept hand-knitting
alive seemed as hopelessly retro as the
Phentex slippers and the Mary Maxim cottage
sweaters on their needles.
So what's happened to
return knitting to the forefront of creative
activities? For some people, it was Martha
Stewart, Debbie Stoller and Lily Chin.
For others it was Russell Crowe and Julia
Roberts and other celebrity knitters.
Still others discovered a new local yarn
store around the corner from home or work,
or stumbled across a previously unseen
yarn section in Walmart or Zellers or
Michaels.
For me, it was the Internet.
A check-out-the-new-trend news article
on a newspaper site led to Google and
Amazon searches, to crafty weblogs, zines
and online stores with more innovative
and appealing yarns and patterns than
we've seen in quite some time. Men with
an itch to stitch should check out what
their compadres are up to on sites like
When
Knitting Was a Manly Art, KnitDad's
Blog, Men
Who Knit and Queer Joe's blog. These are just the
tip of the iceberg -- there's plenty of
online support out there for guys who
are just starting out, who have made a
few simple items and want to try something
new, or who have decades of experience
behind them.
All this to say it hasn't
been a better time to be a knitting guy
for more than 500 years. So call up your
local yarn store and ask about knitting
lessons, or drop by to pick up a book
or two and some needles and yarn, and
take the plunge. If you're not sure how
easy or difficult (or gorgeous or hideous)
a pattern will be, ask the sales staff...or,
failing that, the other customers! If
you need a little help at the start --
try getting your mom or a friend or a
co-worker to help you cast on. With a
little time and patience behind you, you'll
be out there knitting in public, posting
pictures of your works-in-progress on
your very own knitblog -- and maybe even
showing our crafty sisters a thing or
two along the way.