| By 
                            Kerrie Rycroft 
                             
                             
                             Knitting 
                            used to be my hobby. Any spare minute I had in the 
                            day would be spent, needles in hand clicking away. 
                            Knitting was the way I relaxed after a hard day at 
                            the office. I would sit on the sofa, 2-year-old daughter 
                            on the floor in front of me playing with her toys, 
                            boyfriend on the sofa next to me watching TV, and 
                            knit knit knit for as long as I could before something 
                            (or someone) demanded my attention. Don't 
                            get me wrong, I still knit. But now it is a 
                            hobby rather than my hobby. A small distinction, 
                            but an important.  A 
                            few weeks ago, this changed. I looked up from the 
                            Point 5 jumper that I was making to see a small pair 
                            of eyes focused on me. "I me help mummy knitting" 
                            she said. At first she was happy to hold the ball 
                            of wool while
 I 
                            knitted. This lasted for about 5 minutes before she 
                            discovered that dropping the wool made it bounce. 
                            Suddenly I was knitting with the amazing, bouncing 
                            ball of wool. Distracting? Annoying? No, not really. 
                            It's amazing what you can ignore when you need to. 
                            Still I knitted; still I felt it was my hobby. After 
                            a few nights of bouncing knitting she progressed to 
                            wrapping the wool around her hands and feet and pretending 
                            that she was being knitted. "Careful, mummy. Don't 
                            knitting me." This was slightly more of a distraction 
                            as I actually had to stop, unravel the wool, reassure 
                            her that I wasn't going to "knitting" her and start 
                            again. Still I was able to knit. To some degree, it 
                            was still my hobby. Then 
                            she wanted to hold the needles while I knitted.  Fortunately 
                            most of my recent projects have involved huge plastic 
                            15mm chunky needles which are slightly safer for a 
                            child to play with than tiny 3mm metal needles.  A 
                            few evenings were spent with her sitting on my lap, 
                            clutching the needles while I knitted. She shouted, 
                            "look, daddy, look! I me knitting." Somehow, I was 
                            still knitting, albeit at a vastly reduced speed and 
                            with my arms at a very strange angle to allow for 
                            the small person sitting on my knee. It was beginning 
                            to become a shared hobby. The 
                            day that she took the needles out of my hands and 
                            began sticking them randomly into the ball of wool 
                            declaring, "I me knitting on my own now," I gave up 
                            all pretence that I had a hobby that was simply mine 
                            to enjoy. Since 
                            then I've accepted the fact that I can no longer knit 
                            in her presence without providing her with a ball 
                            of wool, a pair of large needles and simultaneously 
                            working on my project and ensuring that she doesn't 
                            cause too much damage. She is pretty good at not stabbing 
                            herself (or anyone else) and only once has she unravelled 
                            a whole ball of wool without me noticing. Usually 
                            she will "knit" nicely for about 10-15 minutes, pushing 
                            the needles into the wool and pulling them back out 
                            again, wrapping them all up together until she finally 
                            announces "I me finished knitting now. Look what I 
                            me made." Well done, darling, it's a tangled-up work 
                            of art! Oh, 
                            by the way, my boyfriend's reaction to having two 
                            girls knitting in the house is to roll his eyes back 
                            in his head and mumble about how he needs a son. Something 
                            about football and leaving us to it? I personally 
                            can't wait for the day that she is old enough to learn 
                            how to actually knit. I love the idea of being able 
                            to pass on my knowledge to her. 
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